Hi everyone! A little later than usual for my first discussion post of the year, but as I mentioned in my goals post at the beginning of the year, I’m trying out a new schedule this year to see if it’s more sustainable, as I’ve been finding it difficult to keep up with the monthly discussion posts on top of reviews and everything else over the last couple of years and as a result have been posting these very sparsely as and when I find the time. I’d like to get back onto a more regular schedule this year, so I thought I would try a bi-monthly schedule this year and see if that works out better for me as I think six rather than twelve of these a year, given how long they tend to be will be more manageable for me. This would mean that, depending on how busy I am of course, you could expect discussion posts from me in April, June, August, October and December this year. If I find I have more ideas, and the time to do them, then you might get extra Jo Talks post, but for the time being, bimonthly is the plan, and if I find that it works for me this year, then it’s something I’ll look at keeping up in future.
Anyway, that’s the admin stuff out of the way for today, onto the post! My 9th blog anniversary was on Monday, which is honestly a little mad to think about! I was 17 when I started doing this, still in Lower Sixth, I hadn’t even done my A-Levels yet and so much has happened in the past nine years both for the blog and in my personal life, it’s been a bit of a whirlwind and this blog has been there through it all. As usual, I massively want to thank everyone that has been reading and following this blog over the years, however long you’ve been here, I really appreciate you and I’m so happy that you still want to read my ramblings about books nine years later.
Which brings me to this week’s post. It wasn’t something I was initially planning on talking about for my blogaversary celebration post, but I realised when thinking about it, that the blog actually tied quite well into the idea.
There’s a perception of readers as a somewhat anti-social group of people, given that reading is by nature a solitary activity, and there’s plenty of memes and merchandise out there saying “Leave me alone, I’m reading”. I know personally that when I was at school, a lot of my teachers discouraged me from reading during my free time before registration and at breaks and lunch, because they felt I should be socialising more. Quite ironically, these teachers would nearly always be English teachers who would then turn around and say to my parents at Parents Evening that it was great that I was such an enthusiastic reader (seriously what did they want from me? Definitely felt like I could never win on that front!). But anyway, there was always this element of judgement that I was being anti-social because I preferred to sit and read by myself in my free time, at least some of the time, than be constantly socialising. There’s probably a whole separate discussion I could have about the value of alone time, but I won’t get into that today.
Obviously the act of actually reading a book is generally going to be a solitary experience and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with having hobbies that you can do on your own. I think sometimes that as a society, there’s an expectation that you should do everything with someone else and that doing things like going to a restaurant, to the theatre, to the cinema is something you should do as a group, or at least with another person when there’s nothing wrong with doing those things by yourself if you want to. Society at large definitely doesn’t seem to value alone time anywhere near as much as it should, and whilst human beings are social creatures, it’s not a bad thing to spend some time alone on the odd occasion. I think it’s one of the reasons why I love reading so much because it does give me my much needed time alone in order to be able to recharge!
However, I would strongly argue against the perception of readers as anti-social in general. Do we like being interrupted whilst reading? No! But as with anything, there is a social element around books and reading, even if the actual activity itself is something that you do alone. For one thing, I have met my closest friends through a shared love of reading. I’ve mentioned my best friend from school Hannah on this blog many times over the years (she’s the friend I go to YALC with every year). We were both new at our school in the same year, and we bonded through a shared love of the Percy Jackson books, which then led to me lending her my copies of the Heroes of Olympus books as they came out, endless discussions of the books we were reading and us becoming firm friends. To this day, I still lend her books, push all of my favourite authors on her and we can chat for hours and hours about books. At university, I met my flatmates Rebecca and Nicola through the Creative Writing society and we also bonded over our shared love of books and writing, and Nicola and I have been to several author events together over the years. In fact one of the quickest and easiest ways for me to bond with people is being able to talk about books with them. Readers may not want interruptions when we’re actually reading, but if there’s one thing I love almost as much as actually reading books, it’s talking about them with other people. So I would argue that reading has actually facilitated me being more social, as it’s given me something that I actually really enjoy talking about with people!
Author events are another good example of how a shared love of reading can be an activity which brings people together. I’ve been to many author events over the years, both with friends and alone, and the number of people I’ve met in signing queues in that time, I genuinely could not count! Readers are genuinely some of the nicest and friendliest people I’ve ever met, I only have to think back to YALC last year and meeting Heather in Neal Shusterman’s signing line and then ending up spending much of my two days at YALC hanging out with her. Even just last month, at Leigh Bardugo’s event in London, I met and ended up chatting to two other readers in the signing line. These events really do facilitate meeting people because you’re all there because of a shared love of books, and often the same author, so you already have something to talk about and it feels far less awkward making conversation with strangers!
Then there has of course been this blog. I first set this blog up in sixth form because I was looking towards a future career as a journalist and the tips I read said that setting up a blog was a good idea. Writing about books seemed like a no-brainer for me because they’ve always been the thing I loved the most in my life. But if it had just been about getting into Uni, I wouldn’t still be here nine years later. No, the reason I’m still here nine years later is because of the community. I have loved being able to “meet” and chat to so many other bloggers over the years, I have loved being able to share my love of books with you all and to hear your thoughts about the books I’ve been reading. Through blogging, I’ve been able to connect to so many more readers than I’d ever thought I would be able to and have developed this wonderful online community of people who all share the same passion for books that I do. I feel like anyone who has ever been a part of the online book community would not be able to argue that we’re an anti-social bunch of people, because the shared love and enthusiasm and engagement of the book community is truly astonishing. Blogging has allowed me to share my love of books with more people than I ever thought possible and it still astounds me that people from all over the world read this blog, and that so many of you are interested in what I have to say! The ongoing passion and connection with other bloggers is what has kept me going over the past nine years, what has made me enjoy blogging so much and why I still love doing this so much almost a decade in.
Reading also doesn’t always have to be a solitary experience, in fact when we all first start learning to read, it generally isn’t! When I was a kid, the thing that first got me into reading, was my dad reading to me and my sister. I still fondly remember sitting on the sofa with him and my sister and listening to him read us the James Herriot books and doing all of the accents for the Yorkshire farmers. Listening to him read us these stories was what made me fall in love with books, and I don’t think I would have become the voracious reader that I am without having those initial experiences as a kid. I think it’s also one of the reasons why I love audiobooks because it does remind me of being read to as a kid! So many cultures have a really long history of oral storytelling, coming from times before people were able to read or write, so it seems odd that reading would ever be considered anti-social given the deep roots in many cultures of storytelling being something that was shared.
Book clubs are another way that reading can be a social activity as people come together to read and share their thoughts about a shared book they are reading. I’ll admit, I’ve never been a part of any in-person book club, but I have been a member of a book club on Goodreads for the past few years, which has given me yet another outlet to chat about books with people. I’ve done buddy reads with other members of the group and we’ve shared our thoughts on the books as we’ve gone along, which has allowed me to experience reading in a different way than before, and the online book group has been yet another way for me to make reader friends as we chat quite a lot, not just about what we’re reading, but also more generally about what’s going on in our lives. Once again, through a shared love of reading, I’ve been able to make social connections with people that I otherwise wouldn’t have.
There’s nothing wrong with not wanting to socialise all of the time, in fact, I personally think it’s really healthy to be able to enjoy your own company and take some time for yourself. It’s something that I really need as an introverted person, I love spending time with my friends and family for instance, but I do always need some time alone afterwards to recharge my social batteries! However, the perception of readers as a purely anti-social group of people as I’ve explored in this post is just plain wrong.
Reading is actually far more of a social activity than people give it credit for, because it creates a common connection between people through which we can bond. Storytelling in general is one of the main ways that people connect with other people, whether you consume those stories in books, through TV or film, video games, theatre etc because it gives people a shared experience to talk about. One of the very best things about reading for me, and storytelling in general to be honest, is that so many people can consume the same story but one reader’s experience will never be exactly the same as another’s. It’s why I love talking about books so much because even if you’re two readers who have read and loved the same book, chances are there will still be different things that you loved about it and it’s why I think the social aspect of reading is so special because you can have consumed the same story and had a completely different experience of reading it and yet still come together through a shared love of that thing. It may be quite easy to see people who enjoy sitting alone reading a book as anti-social, but I think to do that is a serious discredit to the very real bonds that can be formed through a shared love of the same books, and it’s a perception that lacks nuance of all the different ways that reading can actually be a very social activity indeed. Sure you’ll still get a serious glare if you interrupt a reader mid-sentence, but you’ll find if you start chatting to a reader about our favourite books, we can be very difficult to shut up!
So there we go, that’s just some of my thoughts about how reading can actually be more of a social activity than many would give it credit for! What do you think? Have you bonded with people over a shared love of books over the years? (if you’re reading this blog in the first place, chances are you have!) Is there an unfair judgement placed on readers as being “anti-social”? Did you ever get told off at school for spending too much time reading and not enough time socialising with other kids? Let me know in the comments!
As I mentioned at the top of this post, this was my ninth blogaversary post, which means that *gasp*, my 10th anniversary is coming up next year! Someone asked me on Tuesday if I had any plans of what to do to celebrate it and I honestly hadn’t really thought about it yet, so I wanted to throw it out to you guys, is there anything in particular that you would like to see me do for it? I thought I could maybe do a special Top Ten Tuesday and talk about my ten favourite books that I’ve read over the years I’ve been blogging, as the anniversary will fall on a Tuesday next year? And then possibly a special giveaway on Twitter, if Twitter hasn’t completely imploded by then? But I’m open to any and all suggestions of things you might like to see, as it’s a special anniversary, I’ll probably do more than just the one post celebrating it.
I’m planning on having another discussion post up for you guys in April as I trial this new bi-monthly schedule, though I’m not quite sure what that will be yet. In the meantime, my regular Top Ten Tuesday will be up on Tuesday and I’ve got a book event next week to, so should have a new event recap up for you fairly soon as well, so hopefully lots to look forward to!
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